Friday, July 13, 2007

A Breath of Fresh Air

Last night I had my girly appointment with my new doctor. I chose a young doctor intentionally, and I’m sort of getting used to having a doctor who’s my age, but I’m very impressed with her. She diagnosed me with PCOS (Polycystic Ovary Syndrome when other doctors saw my weight as a cause rather than a symptom, and she’s very kind and knowledgeable. And, if I didn’t like her enough, we had this exchange yesterday:

Doc: “Are you planning a pregnancy?”
Me: “No.”
Doc: “Now, or not ever?”
Me: “Never.”

She proceeded to tell me how she wishes all her patients would consider what having a child meant. She admitted that she had no idea what she was in for when her daughter was born just under a year ago. “Your life doesn’t just change,” she said. “Your life is over! I’m just so glad I waited ‘til I was 30 and did everything I did until then.” She said it was the hardest thing she ever did and she could totally appreciate why someone wouldn’t want a child. Of course she loves her daughter, but she couldn't believe just how much of an adjustment it required in her world.

And the best part?

She never asked me why I didn’t want one. This was the absolute first time I’ve mentioned my childfree-ness to someone other than a fellow CF and the words “why not?” were never uttered.

It was so nice.


Anonymous said...

Wow! That's fantastic! Your doctor rocks and how refreshing to hear her admit to how difficult it is to have a kid. Susan Jeffers wrote a terrific book called "I'm Okay, You're a Brat" which helps debunk the "having children is perfect" myth. I strongly recommend it!


AlphaGirl said...

How refreshing that you had a bingo-free experience with your doc! Usually docs are the biggest offenders when it comes to bingos.

Sounds like you've found an excellent doc =)

Feh23 said...

Thanks for the awesome blog!

Childfree Chick said...

You know what, I have a new gyno (she's young as well) and when we talked about my CF status, she didn't bat an eye either! She thinks I'm cool!

I love it!!!

Tanya said...

I am glad you have a cool doc!