Monday, March 19, 2012

Looking Brighter

My depression is subsiding with the warm weather, thankfully. I've spent several days in the sun and working outside getting the garden ready for our early spring and I'm feeling more optimistic about things in general, and you all have helped tremendously.

Seriously, you all are awesome. The influx of support while I've been depressed is amazing and encouraging. I thank those of you who are commenting so much. I feel less alone and I'm so glad I've made you feel less alone too. You are so amazing it makes me consider lifting the anonymity of my blog, but I still can't bring myself to do it (not that any of my friends wouldn't recognize themselves in my stories if they came across the blog, but that's beside the point). The anonymity protects me, keeps me honest and frank.

To all of you who've offered up support, you're amazing. Want to talk? Reach me at childfreeme at gmail and Google+. Maybe we can get together and have a childfree hangout on G+ sometime soon. I'm useless as an organizer, but it's something to think about — we need to stick together!!

Also, if you like my blog, consider clicking on a couple ads. It isn't much but every little bit helps me write more.

Much love,


Nicole said...

So glad to hear you are feeling more upbeat!!

Take care!

Maybe Lady Liz said...

The weather affects us more than we think! Glad to hear you're feeling better.

Lynn T said...

I'm glad to hear that you are feeling a bit better. I recommend that you join The Childless by Choice Project group on facebook. It was created, and is moderated by, Laura S. Scott for fans and friends of The Childless by Choice Project and her book Two Is Enough: A Couple's Guide to Living Childless by Choice, to build community and offer support.
It's a closed group so members are public but your comments posted there will not be seen by FB friends in your feed, only by the members of the group. Not everyone in the group is childless by choice, some are on the fence like yourself, and there are some interesting discussions. It's possible you are already a member but go by a name that doesn't link you to your website!

olivia said...

It's great to read that you're feeling a bit better. I'm with Lynn - you would be so welcome at the Childless by Choice Project on facebook. There are some really lovely people there. Take care!

Better Read Than Dead said...


I haven't commented here before but eagerly read and look forward to your postings as you write so well and seem to capture exactly my own thoughts about the being childfree. I am sorry to hear you have been going through a rough patch and glad that it is starting to lift.

I have used many of your own words to help me explain my feelings and choices to people when I have not been able to find the words to do so myself. It also helps to know that I am not alone in having made these choices so please do remember how inspiring you have been, and will continue to be, to many people around the world who read your blog to help make sense and validate their own feelings.

To those suggesting the Childless by Choice Project on FB, I also think it sounds really interesting but forgive me asking a possibly dumb question... I like the idea of the closed group meaning postings are not made public but I assume the joining of the group will still show up in my newsfeed? Although I am not keeping my CF stance a secret from friends and family and most are respectful, there are still those whom, I think, would be angered by this showing up and I really don;t want to be provoked into arguments/defence.

All best,

Lynn T said...

Hi Scots Wife. I checked my activity on my facebook and there is no mention of me joining the Childless by Choice group when I joined at the end of the year, so your friends won't see this. Hope to see you there.

Anonymous said...

Thank you so much for this blog... Thank you, thank you, thank you. Lately, as I get older and all of my friends continue to pop out children - even those who swore they never would - I've been feeling sad, lonely, misunderstood, and, quite frankly, marginalized. I am proud of and firm in my decision not to have children, but there are times when it does get difficult to stand by that decision (especially when my sister, who is 11 years younger than me, is now having play dates with my best friend and their kiddos) and to not wonder if there is something wrong with me.

Thanks, again, and I hope you continue feeling better. :)