tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14816443.post8358679560290012809..comments2023-03-25T09:03:43.507-07:00Comments on Childfree Me – Reflections on my choice to be childless: Changes of Heart… a touchy subjectStashahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15440437922934786574noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14816443.post-28113768134255225022007-04-26T23:27:00.000-07:002007-04-26T23:27:00.000-07:00Join the selfish club. I'm a member too and proud ...Join the selfish club. I'm a member too and proud of it.<BR/><BR/>For many of the same reasons as you, my husband and I do not want kids. Going without a drink for 9 months is not horrible, but why do it if I don't have to?<BR/><BR/>"You'll change your mind" is getting tossed at me more and more because I always said I would NOT get married and I did. Dang. Changed my mind. If I did it once, I Tanyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16351226387807161159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14816443.post-34726725787566332152007-04-02T09:11:00.000-07:002007-04-02T09:11:00.000-07:00Okay, you're selfish. So am I.I have known people...Okay, you're selfish. So am I.<BR/><BR/>I have known people who didn't want children and then they did. My sister was this way. In fact, to have a second child she went through years of infertility treatments and finally in-vitro. It was all painful, depressing, discouraging and expensive.<BR/><BR/>I was 16 when I knew I didn't want to be a mom. Thankfully, my husband feels the same way Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14816443.post-20769550649466022342007-03-30T06:17:00.000-07:002007-03-30T06:17:00.000-07:00You're not selfish - you know your own mind. That'...You're not selfish - you know your own mind. That's what gets me about the whole "you'll change your mind" comment - people presuming to know my mind better than I know myself. The nerve! I made my decision at 23 and 10 years later I'm as sure as ever that I made the right choice.twiga92https://www.blogger.com/profile/16751327144782362475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14816443.post-7329926162678209592007-03-28T13:21:00.000-07:002007-03-28T13:21:00.000-07:00I hate it when people say those things!My current ...I hate it when people say those things!<BR/><BR/>My current stance is "no children now, maybe no children ever." I'm still only 25, and I want to give it a few more years before I make that final choice. <BR/><BR/>My most hated statement is "It's different when they're yours." Well, yes, I'm sure it is. But, that's not really convincing me to have one.<BR/><BR/>I love reading your blog because N.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16989527180631520213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14816443.post-78294452620629473922007-03-28T11:45:00.000-07:002007-03-28T11:45:00.000-07:00It was funny to me that mentioned the occasional c...It was funny to me that mentioned the occasional cocktail in your reasons. I admit to being a fencesitter, but am getting to the age where I need to get off the fence. <BR/><BR/>We decided to give it a try, even though we weren't 100% for sure on it. For several months I gave up all vices (occasional cocktail, coffee, dying my hair, etc.) It was not very fun. But, I didn't want my decision to be Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14816443.post-77699748575470121762007-03-28T09:16:00.000-07:002007-03-28T09:16:00.000-07:00You're no more selfish than I am. I also live my l...You're no more selfish than I am. I also live my life for me, and I have been doing so for some time now. You can't please everyone, so you might as well please yourself and your spouse. I agree with anonymous that the non-childfree should be giving as much thought to this as we do...it's really scary and sickening to me that they don't. I'm on LiveJournal, and I have a friend who got knocked up Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14816443.post-78542127742708005492007-03-28T09:07:00.000-07:002007-03-28T09:07:00.000-07:00I think you're self-wise and should be proud of it...I think you're self-wise and should be proud of it! <BR/><BR/>If only most childed did as much careful thinking and considering of their own thoughts as us childfree (as evidenced in your excellent post), all children would be wanted and well taken care of.<BR/><BR/>rmsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com