tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14816443.post4222630027171902902..comments2023-03-25T09:03:43.507-07:00Comments on Childfree Me – Reflections on my choice to be childless: My Time, Our TimeStashahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15440437922934786574noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14816443.post-58937195137017237142014-02-08T09:31:41.867-08:002014-02-08T09:31:41.867-08:00I've never been one for volunteering for unpai...I've never been one for volunteering for unpaid work.. unless its through church.<br /><br />And that's what parenting is. Where's the benefit in that? <br /><br />The tax deduction doesn't even come close to making it 'worth it.'Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14816443.post-20234074977087767892014-01-17T07:18:32.742-08:002014-01-17T07:18:32.742-08:00Yay! I'm glad to see when the shine has worn o...Yay! I'm glad to see when the shine has worn off of jealousy. I too get jealous at times when I think of all the cute things kids can say and do and then I remember that New York Comic Con is a 4 day experience that I most likely couldn't do if we had kids and my jealousy quickly fades. It's not easy being jealous and you are not alone!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14816443.post-26387463859225353662012-01-02T21:52:38.738-08:002012-01-02T21:52:38.738-08:00I don't want cats or a wife either. Is that ba...I don't want cats or a wife either. Is that bad?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14816443.post-51877804630683859062011-12-03T23:07:46.147-08:002011-12-03T23:07:46.147-08:00Hey Stasha, so I can see you haven't posted in...Hey Stasha, so I can see you haven't posted in awhile but I first off wanted to say I am glad I stumbled across your blog. Also, a question: you mention in one of the posts below that you had to talk your hubby into being childfree when you got engaged. I am interested in hearing what the circumstances were. As someone who is not necessarily childfree but is *deeply* uncertain/skeptical Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14816443.post-13182739044979148042011-11-28T09:33:48.920-08:002011-11-28T09:33:48.920-08:00I don't think there is anything wrong with con...I don't think there is anything wrong with contemplating the other side of the fence from time to time. :) <br /><br />I don't get baby jealousy, but I very much get puppy jealousy! Then I begin to think about the work involved, the way it would complicate my life, and I sigh and go back to remembering why I like my simple childfree life.<br /><br />So I get it.Cheri (CFN)http://www.childfreenation.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14816443.post-19731403539680660192011-10-24T11:22:46.741-07:002011-10-24T11:22:46.741-07:00I'm so happy to find your blog. I just turned ...I'm so happy to find your blog. I just turned 41, have never been one of those woman dying to have kids and when my now husband and I fell in love it turned out he didn't want to have kids either. Of course no one ever said much to me about having kids til I got married and now I get it a lot. And I've had those horrible rabies too (love that expression) b/c friends of mine are now Jennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14816443.post-82304537267560502902011-10-06T13:01:57.581-07:002011-10-06T13:01:57.581-07:00Hi Stasha,
I recently started reading your blog a...Hi Stasha,<br /><br />I recently started reading your blog and I just love it! I'm also child free by choice and love how you address many of the same feelings that I have.<br /><br />AliciaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14816443.post-17607744594070303712011-10-05T12:11:51.418-07:002011-10-05T12:11:51.418-07:00Just a P.S. - Sometimes, the shine even fades for ...Just a P.S. - Sometimes, the shine even fades for parents. (Or should I say "often"?) I was sent a confession letter today from a mother of three who says she might not have had kids had she given it more thought before getting pregnant: http://sylviadlucas.wordpress.com/2011/10/05/dear-sylvia-confession-if-i-could-go-back-i-might-not-have-had-kids/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14816443.post-53049461687543692252011-09-15T07:19:53.106-07:002011-09-15T07:19:53.106-07:00@Anonymous First off, it troubles me that you seem...@Anonymous First off, it troubles me that you seem to be implying that you're single because you're overweight. Girl, I'm a size 22/24 and my husband is gorgeous, funny, and totally into big girls. He's not alone! A lot of my girlfriends are big girls with hot men. A little confidence goes a long way. Just sayin. :) <br /><br />Sylvia's recommendation for beating the rabies isStashahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15440437922934786574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14816443.post-76896462942502691662011-09-15T05:19:03.262-07:002011-09-15T05:19:03.262-07:00Anonymous - I had a moment like that once when I w...Anonymous - I had a moment like that once when I was married (to my ex). It was a five-minute window of, "Oh, hell. Let's have a baby."<br /><br />When that five minutes was over, I was so thrilled he didn't take me up on it that I swore I'd never say such words again unless I was prepared to spend nine months pregnant and the rest of my life going through the phases of Sylviahttp://www.amazon.com/No-Children-Guilt-ebook/dp/B005MTX75O/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1316088593&sr=8-3noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14816443.post-53722590089915207232011-09-14T21:55:36.315-07:002011-09-14T21:55:36.315-07:00I must say, i'm having some serious baby rabie...I must say, i'm having some serious baby rabies at this stage. 8 of my friends are pregnant, the first due 30 September 2011 (2nd kid)... Its getting so bad i actually asked a friend last night just to get married for a year or two, just so we can have a kid.<br /><br />I think that was a moment of serious insanity...<br /><br />I'm single as well, seeing as I am overweight and strugglingAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14816443.post-41612574302450435032011-09-13T19:58:37.941-07:002011-09-13T19:58:37.941-07:00My friends have said the same thing, especially th...My friends have said the same thing, especially those with colicky children. One of them said that she couldn't stand for her husband to touch her anymore. Definitely takes the sheen out of motherhood.Valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14891905645531339658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14816443.post-82679092913313963072011-09-08T23:35:50.246-07:002011-09-08T23:35:50.246-07:00Time to yourself is definitely less than is was. O...Time to yourself is definitely less than is was. On one hand, you have your baby/toddler that wants your attention. On the other, you do what you want, then you're ignoring your child. I can tell you from experience balancing time for myself, time for my husband and I to be together and time for my son is HARD! Then adding a colicky baby in the mix, it's very hard. My son wasn't Angry Fat Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05235001418017724987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14816443.post-64713710412611758132011-09-08T11:04:43.896-07:002011-09-08T11:04:43.896-07:00I agree that choosing to be childfree does often m...I agree that choosing to be childfree does often make parents feel threatened about their choices... perhaps because they then unconsciously imagine what their life would have been like if they hadn't had their children... and in that moment feel both jealous of you, disloyal and unloving towards their kids for even thinking that... and unjustifiably think that this seething cauldron of Jodykathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06781559002363642143noreply@blogger.com